I know how easy it is to take a person for granted. When people are given an inch, they can take a mile. I am the person you cannot wait to talk to; I am not the person you call with your free time. It is funny how some people take liberty of the opportunity given to them. I am not your second choice. You may not realize it, but I am not the kind of person you put as a spare. I do not have to make a demand of how I should be appreciated. It is something that should come naturally to you if I am important to you.
When you make me feel like I am in second place, I will walk away. In my life, I prioritize the person I am with. I will put you first. Even when I do not have free time, I will make time to talk to you. You know why? Because you are important to me and I expect the same from you. I will not sit around and watch you treat me like I am in second place. How would you feel if the person you cherish and hold important treats you like you don’t mean much ? It hurts differently when the person you love treats you with a little bit more than indifference.
We all deserve to be with someone who makes us a priority. Everyone deserves true love. Life makes a lot more sense when two people who claim to be in love prioritize themselves. It is easier when they put each other first. When they communicate often and always, regardless of schedule. When it doesn’t feel like the love is one-sided. The thought of being second place to someone who claims to love can be wrecking. It can damage a person’s self-esteem and confidence.
They begin to wonder if they are good enough, and if they are, why then does their partner not prioritize them. I have been through before, and I resolved not to ever put myself in such a situation again. When I feel like I am not being made a priority in my relationship, I take it as a sign that I am not supposed to be there. People think it is okay to stay where they are not appreciated, and this is why we have a lot of persons who are settling for less. Once you begin you to settle for less in your relationship, you will find yourself settling everywhere else.
Being in a healthy relationship has a way of boosting a person’s confidence and self-esteem. That confidence eventually spills into other areas of their life. One of the signs of a healthy relationship is that both partners prioritize each other. That is why I will not be your second choice or the person you call when you are bored. I refused to be unappreciated, and if you cannot make me a top priority in your life, then you can leave. I will rather be alone than be with someone who doesn’t place enough value on me.