In all seriousness, if someone takes you in during trying times, the least you could do is give thanks by helping out. Some people don’t realize that you were welcomed into their house as a guest.
They took you in through the goodness of their heart. Show some respect, be courteous, do your part! Clean up the house, show you are grateful to them for opening their door for you. Many times, we learn a hard lesson, trying to help others— when they fail at trying to help themselves and become an unwanted guest. Don’t become this person! You will quickly wear out your welcome and you’ll most likely ruin some friendships along the way. When someone offers to help you, don’t become a burden on their shoulders. Help out, do what you can to show you’re grateful for their generosity. It takes a lot, and a person with a huge heart to welcome you for a place to stay. Be grateful for these people in your life, they are true friends, don’t burn your bridge by taking advantage!
I whole heartedly agree! DON’T take advantage of anyone ‘s kindness. It’s a sin and God knows!
It Just happened to me I pray she ok got her money left without coming back to get her things.
I agree also. I have 3 people staying with me and they are so lazy and Ungrateful.
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This is going on in my home. Staying w no payment or cleanung but yet complaining.
I’m stuck with a total ingrate. It’s my fault, as Mark has become “dysfunctional “. Won’t lift a finger! I have unintentionally traded my happiness for his, comfort, and safety! He’s been a lazy man as long as I’ve known him, and I feel used, as he is taking advantage by his presence. My fault, and his family refuses to help. Matt’s house of weak lame, and lazy! I’m so ashamed of myself for caring…….
When I graduated from college years ago and I came home from being away for 4 years, it was common sense for me to cook, clean and maintain the house. I was going on interviews and I had other small necessities and my Mom gave me small change weekly. This is how I was raised, it all starts at home and was continued. And it’s in some of us even if it wasn’t taught. I feel for those that are going thru that. Communicate and I know that’s hard and sometimes uneventful, but try, at least your part will be done.
Will turn your house into a resthome like you owe them something (show no gratitude)
Got one now that’s lazy and doesn’t do anything all day long but sleep and doesn’t work and hideaway
My cousin Narding… I let him stay rent free, eat free plus gave my time, effort, money and generosity.. he won’t even help in the house like he is entitled to everything I have. What a leech. I kicked him out. Now he is bad mouthing me to everyone. Never again….
It’s amazing and disgusting how so many people take kindness for weakness. I took in a homeless woman and her two little dogs once who was living in her VW. Big mistake. I really wanted to help her. She started telling me what to do and how I should do things, etc. I was so happy when I got her out. Instead of being grateful, she accused me of stealing her cheap jewelry. Told her I didn’t need her stuff. She finally found it and at least apologized for that. Then, I still didn’t learn my lesson. I let a couple other people stay here but now I have learned my lesson. No more!
I think you should at least try to help vacuum or clean the bathroom or ask if you can help with laundry and definitely clear off the table and help do the dishes if you’re staying with someone and they’re just in even if you’re just visiting!
Also, If you are staying with your mother or father for the second time you’ve already been out of the house once trying to make it on your own and you are whatever reason or living with her at the present time, you should really help out as much as you can!
I’ve learned..it is a kindness to kick them out! otherwise, they won’t do anything but settle into a useless routine..
Oh, wow…..THIS is soooo creepy true! We literally just wrapped up three different couples who did this exact thing! We dont have much to begin with but we have big hearts and figured the extra $ would help with rent. Well, we didnt EVER get rent help and ended up losing half our clothes, bed sheets, towels, etc when we informed them it was time to move on because our place wasnt a flop house. The bathroom was trashed, bedroom had cig burn holes everywhere and it wasnt bad enough they ate all our good food BUT they’d continually leave food pieces everywhere in the kitchen. They’d drop food on the floor and not feel the motivation to pick it up! I told my fiance NO MORE Roommates! I’ve discovered that a ton of people out there act like they were raised by a pack of wolves and have zero courtesy or respect in their entire DNA strand!! Its sad, to be honest. I will never understand how, when someone takes others in, gives them clothes, shower, 3 meals a day and more, some will suck about everything that person possessed right out the door and not show the slightest remorse or guilty conscience for doing it.
This always did happen to me. I did all the cooking, cleaning, dishes, laundry & the whole 9 yards.
I got this going on in my home just plain lazy n don’t care smh!!!!!
i totally agree and don’t trash your room! And if going out to eat, pay for your own meal unless the host says they will pay before hand!
OMG this happened to me earlier this year!!!
My husband brought home a guy whom his house burned down and finding out later he had done it on purpose! He was with us for almost 7 years. He liked fire and wouldn’t sleep in house he would sleep on my favorite lounge chair fold outs. It was very bad living arrangements. So last week he took my car one evening and parked it in parking area at our Vons. The day went by and not until the next day at dusk an officer called me notified me he had found my car. My outside home sitter had taken it and said he needed to be by the cameras there in Vons to show everyone when the E.T.s come and get him. He said I have to be by cameras so everyone will finally know what happened to him. Well I kindly thanked the officer and told them his family is coming to get him and put him in a place he could get help. So he’s finally gone and I definitely sleep better at night knowing he’s not out there starting fires anymore!
Yeah, I took in a friend who was in an abusive relationship. No money , no job, but did have a car at least. I’d give her cash to run to get a few groceries and if she wanted something for herself. Later discovered that she was receiving food stamps and buying food with them and stashing away the cash I gave her. Thought it was odd that she would try to duplicate whatever I was doing. For example: I’d put my hair in braids…shed put braids in hers. I wear a dress, she’d wear a dress. My relationship ship with my S.O. was strong. Never thought for a minute that he would have ing interest in .her. Out of the blue…I couldn’t do anything right and he’d stay late at work and pick fights with me. Apparently he and my “imaginary twin friend “bonded” while I was away at work. They ran off together.
I had someone stay with me and all they did was eat shit shower tic tok and watch TV. Maybe wash dashes 3 times an clean bathroom once in 2 months. I was tired of that.
Hhhhmmm, well I live with someone and CLEAN up after that person’s dog when her dog passes and shits everywhere and then feeds her dog and I also CLEAN that person’s house mop, dishes and even dust if I have to and I’m without a job rite now and can’t pay for my part of the bills but when I first moved in I ended up giving $600 the first month and wasn’t even there but for the last 2 weeks of the month then started paying $150 every 2 weeks PLUS an extra $100 for half the lights, water and gas and on top of that I put $300 in groceries in that house!!!! She posted this MEME and I know in my heart it was directed towards me, BUT I DO AND HAVE DONE MORE THEN WHAT SHE CAN ASK FOR, so since she posted this I think it’s time for me to move along!!!! JUST SAYING.. .
I DISAGREE,YES SIMEONES GOOD ENOUGH TO LET YOU STAY,BUT LIKE ME,IM NOT STAYING FOR NOTHING,ITS NOT RENT FREE,I PAY $200 A MONTH,PLUS IM MAKING PAYMENTS ON ME A CAMPER TO LIVE IN,ITS KIND IF HARD PAYING WHAT I PAY EVERY MONTH,PLUS PAYING ON A PLACE OF MY OWN,&ITS NOT MY FAULT,MY HOME ISNT READY YET,BUT I CANT WAIT TO BE OUT OF HERE,&IN MY OWN PLACE, HAVE MY PRIVACY,PEACE&QUIET&NOT HAVE TO ANSWER TO ANYONE!SO I STRONGLY DISAGREE,IF I WAS FREELOADING IT WOULD BE DIFFERENT,BUT IM NOT&ONCE I MOVE OUT,THEY WONT HAVE TO BE WORRIED WITH ME EVER AGAIN,THEY WILL NEVER SEE ME OR HEAR FROM ME AGAIN!
You really shouldn’t invite people into your home with the expectation of getting free labor. If you expect physical labor in exchange for room and board only, how is that any different from slavery? If you are lucky enough to be one of the few who put up someone who does help out around the house, what’s wrong with showing a little appreciation when they do? If they have no income, what’s wrong with tossing them a few dollars to show your appreciation for the help? I look through these comments and I see a bunch of self entitled grown ass children complaining about having to do things they would otherwise have to do anyway. You’re only perpetuating the sense of entitlement, you’re not helping anyone.